Do babies choose their parents before birth? Their soul does.
- Sarah Cremona
- Apr 21
- 5 min read
*blog talks about birth trauma.
You Were Chosen, Mumma — What If Your Child Picked You?
What if I told you that your child chose you long before they took their first breath on this physical earth?
To some, that may sound far-fetched — but you didn’t stumble across this blog by accident.
You searched. You’re curious. You’re here.
Trust that.
Many ancient traditions and spiritual teachings hold this belief: that souls choose their parents before birth. And lately, in my own life and work with other mothers, this concept has resurfaced in profound ways — especially after losing a dear friend to cancer. She left behind a beautiful 10-year-old daughter, and in my grief, I found myself wondering:
If souls really do choose their parents… why would someone choose this kind of ending? This kind of loss?
It led me deeper into my own soul searching.
That’s when I came across the work of Dolores Cannon, a world-renowned hypnotherapist, past-life regressionist, and author of Between Death and Life. Through decades of deep hypnosis sessions, Dolores uncovered thousands of stories from clients who described what happens between lifetimes — including how and why souls choose their parents.
And the answer?
It’s not random. It’s sacred. It's intentional.
According to Cannon, each soul carefully plans key parts of their human experience before entering this world. And one of the most important decisions?
Choosing their parents.
The Soul Contract You Didn’t Know You Signed
Dolores explains that from the spirit realm, souls choose the people, environments, and life events that will give them the best chance to evolve — to grow, heal, and expand in their next incarnation. That includes the dynamics, personalities, even the challenges they’ll encounter in their families.
So if you’ve ever felt like your journey into motherhood has been messy, painful, or overwhelming… what if that’s exactly what your soul — and your child’s soul — agreed to experience together?
Not to punish.
To awaken.
To choose a different pathway from all you've ever known to be true.
What an opportunity.
Birth Trauma Was My Awakening
Years ago, I sat across from a clairvoyant, feeling completely lost. I didn’t feel like myself. I was stuck in a version of life that no longer fit. She looked at me and said:“There’s a young spirit with you.”
I didn’t know what to make of it then. But only months later, I conceived our third child — William, who was conceived upon first attempt & looking back now, I know that spirit was him waiting for me to be ready for him.
His birth, however, was deeply traumatic.
It broke me open in every possible way — emotionally, mentally, physically.
I carried trauma through my body that the traditional systems couldn’t touch. I was offered medication, but something within me said, this isn’t the way. It didn’t align.
And now I understand why.
His birth wasn’t just the start of his life on earth. It was the beginning of my rebirth.
Because of that experience, I can now see that I was catapulted into a healing journey that completely transformed me.
I quit my government job, became a certified life coach, then expanded into somatics, Reiki, and emotional wellbeing then wrote a book to support mothers on their own healing journey.
I started listening to my body, trusting my intuition, and reclaiming the parts of myself I’d abandoned for the first time in my whole life.
It was painful. And it was powerful.
William’s soul knew what it was doing (& thank gosh it did). He didn’t choose an easy path — and neither did I, but it shook me.
We chose each other for the evolution that both our souls needed, and we have to trust in this at every turn we take.
Even now, he continues to call me forward. To level up. To meet him in new ways. And because I now see the sacredness in our connection, I no longer resist the growth — I embrace it.
Why Did My Child Choose Me As Their Mother?
You may be wondering: Why would my child choose me? I’m still figuring things out. I’m not the perfect mother.
And maybe — though it might feel confronting to admit — what I hear often from my clients are things like this: “I can’t even stand being around my child.”
As triggering as that might sound to some, it’s a very real experience for many mums.
Our children have a way of reflecting back the parts of us we’ve been avoiding, the emotions we’ve buried, and the wounds we haven’t yet healed.
They offer us ways to grow.
But here’s what Dolores Cannon teaches:
Souls don’t choose perfection.
They choose alignment.
They choose growth.
They choose possibility.
Your child didn’t need you to have it all together. They needed your heart, your soul, your presence. They needed you.
Even if your own childhood was painful.
Even if you’re still healing.
Even if motherhood has stretched you further than you thought possible.
You weren’t randomly placed in your child’s life — you were co-authors of the experience before you even arrived earthside.
Journal Prompts for Why My Child Chose Me
This perspective can stir up big emotions.
Let it.
Let it soften you instead of harden you.
Let it open a portal for curiosity, wonder, healing, not perfection.
Here are some prompts to begin:
If my child chose me for a reason, what might that reason be?
What parts of me do I struggle to accept, that my child might be reflecting back to me with love?
What lessons could we be here to explore together — soul to soul?
And then turn inward:
What did I gain from the environment I was born into?
What role did I play in my family of origin — and how is that role still playing out in my life?
Am I ready to choose a new way, now that I’m aware?
There is quiet power in shifting the question from “Why is this happening to me?” to “What is this here to teach me?”
Your Child Chose You
If you’ve ever felt unsure of your place in motherhood, burdened by guilt, or clouded by self-doubt — maybe this is the gentle reframe you didn’t know you were searching for.
Your child didn’t arrive by accident.
You met, soul to soul, in the space before this lifetime.
And you chose each other — not because you were perfect, but because you were aligned.
Whether you’re just starting to explore these spiritual ideas, or you’ve always felt a deeper knowing beneath the surface… this belief has the power to heal your relationship with yourself, your child, and your purpose here as a mother.
And most importantly, you become the generational cycle breaker because of your curiosity.
I see you mumma x
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Sarah x
Mother Alchemist & Transformational Mentor
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